Have to get to class but may expand on this later:
One of the other elders asked me, "Are you going to be here over Thanksgiving weekend" and I reminded her that no, I would not, as Monday of Thanksgiving week is my father's memorial service.
And she said "Oh darn. I was going to ask you to fill in for me, because you never complain about it"
And you know
you know
you know?
Maybe it's TIME for me to start complaining about it. I do get inwardly tired of always being the Chore Donkey who picks up for other people if they have a conflict, or an emergency, or just plain forget, but it does make me tired. I don't SAY anything because it feels like it looks ungracious to.
(Also, this is a person who said "Oh yeah, I'll be there" for the Sunday in question; I guess their plans changed)
But maybe my general desire to seem agreeable gets me taken advantage of? Because people assume it doesn't bother me merely because I'm too polite to say that it does, because I recognize that stuff happens and it sucks having to fill in for people a lot, but I'm always there because I don't have a stupid job that reschedules randomly, or grandkids that get sick, or things like that. But maybe I do need to figure out some gracious way of letting people know that, yeah, it DOES wear on me and just because I'm not huffing and rolling my eyes at being asked to do it means I should be asked EVERY TIME a fill in is needed.
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You remind me of... me. And I let it happen, and a friend of mine who is now contemplating divorce has too. You're too nice, I'm too nice. My friend is too nice. And some people and not just mean people, see kindness as weakness.
I quit my job under cover of retiring because I had been there long enough. Too much crap, and too little listening.
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